Falling back in love with yourself can be the hardest thing to do. You might reflect on the history of your life and find that you have done some things you are not proud of. All those things can feel heavy after a while. It can really impact how you see yourself. It is easy to forget you are still a human being, you make mistakes, and you have lots of life to live in recovery. More often than not, it is easy to focus on how to love others well, or find love, but focus less on how to love ourselves. If you love yourself first, you are more likely to love others better. From a cup that is full, you can fill others up.
It can be a real struggle to accept yourself. So much of how you see yourself is wrapped up in addiction. Society, family, and loved ones may even label yourself. If you have found freedom from addiction, you can rest assured you will face parts of yourself you don’t like. Finding self-love can transform your journey of recovery with acceptance of who you are now and who you’ve been, but not getting stuck on the past. You can come to terms with who you are and who you have come to be now. These exercises can help you go from not being sure of yourself to put yourself at the front of the line.
Whether you want to write it down, journal it, blog about it, or post online, you can learn a lot by practicing gratitude. You can begin to list the attributes about yourself that are unique. Boast on yourself and force yourself to list the best parts of who you are. There is a part of yourself that might want to focus on negative things, but don’t let that get you down. You have lots of good qualities. Think about gratitude as a transformational journey. When you see what you’re thankful for on paper, you can often go back to it and remind yourself what you have in your life that brings you joy and helps you find hope.
Cut Yourself Some Slack
Women can be especially hard on themselves. To fall in love with yourself, you have to cut yourself some slack. Celebrate small victories and practice being kind. If you were someone else, think about how to treat them. If you are hard on yourself, you may realize that is not how you want others to be treated by you. Women can be their own worst critics. Even people you admire make mistakes. Stay humble, but don’t forget to be gracious with yourself.
Watch Your Input
Everything you take in can affect you, both for negative and positive. To fall in love with yourself means sometimes cutting out external input. Taking a break from people, things, or platforms can help do this. Digital cleanses are a great way to clear your mind of distractions and ideals that cut into what success looks like for you. The pressure is on and you will have time to focus on your journey of growth and recovery if you are not busy looking at other people or hearing their opinion of your journey. Own your journey if you want to find personal happiness.
The act of giving back is a recovery principle, but it is also just a good thing to do. If you want to volunteer, it helps others who are less fortunate. Giving back to them is important. By performing small acts with great love, you give people lots of hope for new days ahead. The love in your heart begins to spread out to others. If you give back, invite others into it. Get a group together to do the giving back. Find hope in knowing you can use your time and skills to give back to others in a wonderful way.
The biggest component of loving yourself is self-care with a view from the top. Don’t try to shore up your energy when you are exhausted. Take time to fill your cup. Maybe it is meditation, breaks away from kids, or finding daily moments to do some exercise. Get back into a self-care routine that helps you make sense of life right here and now. Don’t give that up for more work or less fun. Take care of yourself so you can stay healthy in recovery.
Time to Love
Nobody will ever love you as you are capable of loving yourself. You can offer yourself so many gifts, but it can be very hard to focus when you are looking at the past or focusing on your faults. It is easy to get caught up in thinking that way for a while, but don’t stay there. Do not park your mind in the past when you mean to be moving into the future. You have a bright light that is waiting to shine for all to see. It may take some time. If you are struggling with self-acceptance, talk to someone. Try new therapies or holistic medicine. Speak to your doctor about medications you want or are on already. Talk about what it looks like to set goals for your best life in recovery. Speak to your sober sponsor and find ways to get out of a funk you’re in. If you are happy and loving yourself, others will be more likely to do the same. It is a beautiful thing to fall in love with yourself.
Casa Capri helps women find who they are and their purpose. Women who know their purpose and calling are more likely to find hope and healing in recovery. If you are struggling, call Casa Capri today: 844-593-8020
Melissa Holmes Goodmon, Founder & CEO of Casa Capri Recovery, obtained her BA in Psychology and is a Licensed Drug and Alcohol Counselor (LAADC) specializing in women’s core issues. She is recognized as a leader in the field of mental health and substance abuse recovery where she has been an advocate since 2006.